What basic skills do most people seem to have, but you lack?
I’ll give two: playing a musical instrument and basic home repairs.
People will constantly say anyone can do it and it’s just not true. My fingers don’t work that way (for music) and while I’m not wealthy, I’d rather pay a professional for even simple home stuff that other people seem to think everyone should be able to do.
Home repairs used to be my achilles heal.
I have gotten better over the years.
When we got married my FIL bought me a Readers Digest DIY manual and it saved me 10’s of thousands of dollars early in our marriage. Now I use youtube a lot.
I can’t dance either and I don’t mind singing badly. My wife was a musician and I would tell her our kids should have her ability and my taste.
I’ve gotten a little better at home repairs, but not much. And I don’t have that much interest. I posted on FB asking people about someone for minor drywall repair (just a little water damage from the shower). Everyone is just…do it yourself, anyone can do it themselves. I might be able to learn and even do a half-assed job, but I’d rather pay someone $150 to do a good job. There are things I’m good at and things I’m not.
On a weird whim several years ago, when visiting another city, we went to see a group called Marley’s Ghost. Four guys, all multi-instrumentalists, vocal harmonies, etc. We ended up liking them a lot and got several albums later. On one of the albums, they have bagpipes on the last song, then they included dogs howling in protest.
I cannot play an instrument. I took a lot of trumpet lessons but never rose to any listenable level. Did only marginally better on a French horn. I taught myself to adequately play one song on the harmonica (the appropriately named Beatles’ song, I’m a Loser), but no more.
I also have no aptitude for foreign languages. I took three years of Latin in high school and could least read some of it, but speaking at any conversational pace was not achievable. One year of college German was passed, but only due to my capacity for memorization.
I am not good at DIY projects. My dad told me that I was the smartest guy he knew, but I just wasn’t mechanically inclined. Back in the early 90’s, we were upgrading our computer system at work and I was behind the disc units, disconnecting the cables… I had told my boss what my dad said so he came behind the computers with polaroid camera and told me to look up. He took a picture and said we could send it to my dad…me with a screwdriver in my hand behind a million dollar computer system.
I play drums, but I can’t read music. But there is an old joke that the best way to get a drummer to stop playing is to put sheet music in front of him. My instructor was a cool cat jazz guy in the 60’s and didn’t push real hard about reading music. Just play. Which is why I like jazz so much.
I think it’s one of those things your born with, as a kid I liked taking things apart to see how they worked and fixing things that were not working. My first wood working project was building a deck with built in benches and planters, the building inspector was impressed. My older brother is book smart and I don’t think he can change a light bulb. YouTube is helpful for troubleshooting a broken dryer but you still need the basic skills to actually do it right.
You tube is very good, if for nothing else exposing how simple some things are. The control board went out on my range and oven. I thought it would be pretty complex back there, but the video showed that the back of the stove was pretty much barren, save for that was held in place with four screws. Disconnect (and mark where they were) any connectors, take the old board out, put the new one in and reconnect the wires. Put the back on again and plug it in. Saved myself a few hundred dollars, and I think I did just as good a job as the professional.
I wouldn’t call playing a musical instrument a basic skill, it takes a lot of practice. Some people get better quicker and may have some natural ability, but the more you do something the better you should get.